I was out walking yesterday with Ayla strapped to me in her Ergo carrier (which we love, btw)…and she was just bouncing along in front of me, looking around, cooing her approval every once in a while. I kept leaning down to kiss the top of her head or tickling her feet or holding her little hands, and I just felt so overwhelmed with the preciousness of this little girl. I always felt that I wouldn’t make a very good mama to girls, and I would have said that I would much rather have a house full of boys than a house full of girls…but now? A house full of girls sounds just fine with me. I never knew I could love having a daughter like I do.
As we were walking, I whispered this into her ear:: I hope you always know that you are beautiful.
Tell me this…why does it feel so difficult and even wrong to believe that we are beautiful? Like, for me to actually think and believe that I am a beautiful woman just feels…wrong. Is it just me? Maybe you can easily believe in the truth about yourself, and honestly, I hope that you do believe in your beauty and worth as a woman. But I think most of us struggle with this. Most of us live in a place where we feel so negative and derogatory about ourselves that to think anything else feels foreign and just wrong.
WHY IS THIS?!?
I actually don’t really know the answer to that…you could say it’s because of the media and images that are endlessly photoshopped and cultural expectations and Victoria Secret models…and maybe that’s partly true. But maybe it also has a lot to do with the war that the enemy of our souls has waged on our hearts. Maybe it’s because he knows that if he can get us to believe the ugly lies that are constantly bombarding our minds, then we lose our essence as a woman. If we believe we are beautiful, then we walk in confidence, power, and authority. If we believe anything else, then we walk in insecurity and weakness.
When you believe that you are beautiful, your eyes sparkle and you feel alive and you want to kiss your husband and you get creative ideas and you want to wear pretty things and you want to love people more and your life is just better, fuller, happier because of what you believe. We need more woman whose eyes sparkle in this world, right?
So, dears, it’s ok to believe that you are beautiful.
You’re actually supposed to believe it.
It’ll make your eyes sparkle.
What about you: what do you think blocks us as woman from believing that we are beautiful?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
beautiful thoughts for your daughter and for us as woman. I struggle alot about why it’s so hard for me to see this? I firmly believe there is way to see yourself as beautiful that is not prideful but good but it sure is a journey. Yes, culture is some of it but I know for me some of it is things I was taught too. I do think the Enemy easily twists the truth cause he knows how it can hamper us. Maybe some of it is a wrong definition of the word? Not sure. I mean going by what culture sees a beautiful.